The Thane and Friends Podcast-Episode 2-JOEL

The Thane and Friends Podcast-Episode 2 Joel.mp3

Thane: [00:00:02] Hello. Welcome to the Thayne and Friends podcast. I'm the host, Thane Taylor. I've got Joel with me as a guest communication communication coach. You can find him on Twitter at the White sexual. Welcome, Joel. How are you doing today?

Joel: [00:00:19] I'm doing good, man. I'm going to tell you like I tell my wife. Are you ready for the best 10 minutes of your life?

Thane: [00:00:25] That's pretty good. I like that. I am ready. Yes. Thank you. It is going to be. It is going to be quick. That's what I say to my wife, too. So, again, thank you for coming on. I really appreciate you taking your time out of your day to come on this brand new, brand new, new podcast that I've got. I got to say, the first thing that you asked me when I asked you to come on the podcast is, Hey, is this going to be video or audio? So you've got to be a mess right now. What are you wearing right now, Joel?

Joel: [00:00:57] Actually, I did a little quick workout and I took it. I took a shower. The reason I asked that was because I haven't had a haircut, like in a month. And so I'm like, in like, fuzzy mode, like, oh, man, I need to go get I need to get hooked up. But my office is my office is a mess. So that's why I asked. I just move into a new house. So it's like a bomb went off in here. Oh, my God. I was like, Oh, do I need to do I need to get a haircut? Do I need to, like, put a cool picture up or something like that? Get the American flag behind you. Yeah, exactly. Exactly.

Thane: [00:01:28] I like that. How often do you normally get haircuts, Joel?

Joel: [00:01:31] Uh, I, I normally go, like, once a month. I, I prefer to go, like, every two weeks, but, like, I got a pay for haircuts for my boys, too, and I pay for gymnastics and all that stuff. But, yeah, okay. Once. Once a month.

Thane: [00:01:45] Once a month. Awesome. Okay, so communication coach, tell me a little bit about that.

Joel: [00:01:51] Um, so that that basically came from I, I have gone through some like leadership courses and this woman did coaching with me and to kind of work through some business stuff and I went through and I took this profile about the life languages and how it applied to me in my life and it was like all these kind of like bombs went off in my head, like, this is why I do this thing. Like, like I'm a guy that will start like 17 projects and not finish any of them and like, and then so, like, I found out, like, why? And then, you know, when you're married long enough, like I've been with my wife over 20 years, this will be year 17 that we're married. So like, we've had lots of lots of arguments, like everything you can kind of think of. And then we're we're going through a rough patch. And then it was like, Hey, I remember going through this thing. It was really helpful for me individually. What if I figured out, like, what my how my wife is like, you know, what her her profile is like, What language is she speaking? And we found that, like when we would have arguments, a lot of them were just that. I would say one thing, but I had different motivations in mind when I was saying it. So like me and you can can agree on the color blue, what that is, what that is.

Joel: [00:03:07] But there's also like other things behind it. So the communication coach really is what I had gone through in my marriage that helped me to avoid a lot of arguments for us to understand each other, for me to really, really see her and appreciate her. Because my wife, like my wife, is like task oriented, so she likes to get things done. I don't like like I like to be like quarterback, like, hey, like I want this, this or I'm not the guy to do it. So I was able to appreciate her in a much different way and she was able to understand me like, like for me it was like, Oh, Joel's not being lazy. He's just thinking about, like, how to buy the next house in two years and he's planning all that stuff and the budget. And so, so we were able to kind of recognize our own strengths and recognize our own weaknesses and give each other grace. And so that's really, you know, it healed our marriage. And it also helps us moving forward when we when we recognize, oh, like he's not trying to do this to hurt me or she's not trying to do this to make me mad. She's just being being she's playing to her strengths right now, and that's a good thing. I want her to do those things.

Thane: [00:04:13] I like that. When you said you start 17 things and never finish them, I that resonates with me so hard. I that's exactly what I do. So I've got to work on that tenacity, that grit a little bit. And I've recognized that in myself. And, and one thing with my wife and I, when we used to get into to fights like that, we we did the love languages, which is it sounds very similar to what you're saying, right.

Joel: [00:04:37] That love languages is great. I love so this is like another layer of that. So like my I don't say like my thing is like the end all be all.

Thane: [00:04:45] But it's what it sounds like you're saying. Joel That's what it is. What I'm saying.

Joel: [00:04:48] Just kidding. Come with me and I'll be your Come with me. It's not. You're not. It's not going to work.

Thane: [00:04:54] I like that. No, that's really cool. I got to touch base with you on on being able to finish tasks and stuff, because I do that all the time. So obviously.

Joel: [00:05:04] You're. You're. You're the entrepreneur, right? Like, like I got this. I got this idea and this sounds like a lot of time I want I want to do that. That sounds really cool. Yeah, to do that. And then you spend yourself right and all the different directions, right?

Thane: [00:05:18] I start up businesses and I get a lot of energy in the first two years of creative phase, whatever. And then once it gets to that point where it's like, okay, well this is self sufficient and it's just like it's just paperwork At that point, it's over. I'm done with it.

Joel: [00:05:31] Maintenance is boring. Maintenance is boring to you, right? Like, I don't want to do the maintenance stuff. I want to do the innovation stuff. I want to be on the front lines and make this thing cool. I got a I got a slam here. Dang, what if I made a slam me a Pokemon ball? That sounds dope. Yeah.

Thane: [00:05:46] Yeah, yeah. How did you know that? It was very specific to what I do. How did you know that?

Joel: [00:05:52] The communication coach broke.

Thane: [00:05:53] Oh, I like that. I like that. I got a question for you.

Joel: [00:06:00] Yeah.

Thane: [00:06:00] Have you ever thought about robots and how they're designed? How what the best fighting design for a robot would be?

Joel: [00:06:08] Never.

Thane: [00:06:09] Never.

Joel: [00:06:10] Never. No, I'm not. I'm not like I'm not like I'm not I'm not like tech thinker guy Like I'm I'm a like I've always like, like football was my first love. So everything I always looked at with the lens of football. So when I'm sizing things up, like, oh, that guy would be like a great tight end or this would be a great offensive lineman, or he'd be a great, you know, linebacker or whatever. That's kind of how I was never I've never been into like electronics and tech stuff.

Thane: [00:06:36] So how do you think about Sorry.

Joel: [00:06:38] Sorry, sorry. I'm sorry I missed it.

Thane: [00:06:40] Question Yeah, Apology. Apology accepted. Not apology accepted.

Joel: [00:06:45] Okay.

Thane: [00:06:48] So what do you think about athleticism? How would you define that?

Joel: [00:06:51] Um. Really like. I thought I had thought about that because you'd be like, Oh, that dude's the athlete.

Thane: [00:07:01] So the way I.

Joel: [00:07:02] Think, I guess.

Thane: [00:07:03] Hold on. I'll go first and I'll get you, like, a little bit of time to marinate on that. The way I think about athleticism is, let's say somebody is really good at one sport, but they're only good at that sport by default. Meaning, you know, the other good athletes are playing other sports so they can't compete with you in that. Athleticism to me is if you took every single high performer in the world and were playing that sport. Like, how would you compare against those people and then do that for a multitude of sports And it can't just be working out. It's got to have some level of hand-eye coordination. Right. But right now, I think about it.

Joel: [00:07:40] I think like I don't think of athleticism in terms of like definitions. I kind of think of people like to me, the ultimate athletes to me are like basketball players. Like they they are like big, fast, strong, agile, jump. And like, I think like one of the coolest things. Well, not when the cool, but one of the things that I that I remember was like they were talking about Kobe Bryant and they're comparing him to LeBron James. And the comparison was this basically that Kobe Bryant was a great basketball player who was a good athlete. And I mean, by all measures, like he's a he's a tremendous athlete, but it's like 2000 1% in the world or whatever. But they compared him to LeBron. They said LeBron was a great athlete who was a basketball player. And so to me, like a guy like LeBron could have been, you know. You could have been football if you if you worked at it. I'm pretty sure he could have done baseball. I just think that that type of athleticism, it just jumps out at you. And that's kind of one of the things with that.

Joel: [00:08:43] To me, athleticism is it's kind of like jumps that jumps out at you. Like if you I think you wrestled, right? Like you could just tell like, oh, this guy is different. Like I'm working really hard and this guy is like, he doesn't do any of the extra workouts, He doesn't do any of the things he might have been smoking before practice, but he's over here dusting me and like, like I'm trying my hardest. Like, it just got the guys that just built different. So I think there is some of that. When I think of athleticism, this guy guy's a rare bird, like dude who would just like, do like backflips out of nowhere, but like, what the hell, man? Like, where did that where did that come from? Like, I don't have the guts to do a backflip, but I also don't trust myself that I had the explosiveness to actually get it done. So I like that. That's the way I think about what I think of this way. I think of like people and how they stand out.

Thane: [00:09:33] Thank you. Joel. Is there any one last thing you've got about 11 seconds to do, your most important piece of life advice.

Joel: [00:09:42] Well. Seek the kingdom. Seek first the kingdom. And that's it.

Thane: [00:09:46] For the kingdom. I like that.

Joel: [00:09:47] The kingdom, baby.

Thane: [00:09:49] I like that. Well, I appreciate you. Joel, thank you so much for hopping on this podcast. Officially, my first guest for the Ethan and Fred's podcast episode to complete. There we go.

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